Things You Should Avoid Saying In Your Speech At All Costs!When most people find out that they are expected to give a wedding speech, they usually wonder what they should say in the speech (that’s after the mandatory panic, of course!) But over the years we have found that it isn’t always what you say, but what you DO NOT say. To help you understand what we’re talking about, we’ve come up with a few tips and pointers on what you shouldn’t say in a wedding speech. We hope that by understanding what you shouldn’t say, you’ll form a better idea of what you can and should say. So without any more delay, let’s get started... |
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Firstly, the golden rule for what to avoid in most speeches, particularly wedding speeches, is not to discuss sex, politics or religion. Why? Well if you haven’t guessed already, these topics can cause offence when the listeners have different views than you. And as a general rule, you always want to avoid offending family members and friends from each side. Unless you know everybody at the wedding (that includes both sides) you aren’t going to know what the views are of everybody, and because of this… you must avoid these topics. Onward. The next thing to avoid (and something that is very common in people who have never given speeches before) is being overly apologetic. There is no need to apologize for your speech before you have even made it. You don’t even know how well it is going to go - it may be a complete success. If you start your speech with an apology, you’re going to create a self-fulfilling prophecy that will most likely cause you to fail anyway. Don’t apologize. Nobody wants to hear it. The next thing to avoid is being depressing. When we say depressing, we mean talking about something that may bring back bad times or memories. For example, talking about someone who has died who would have been at the wedding, or talking about previous wives or partners. It’s best to stay away from these topics during the wedding speech. You don’t want to leave people feeling sad or depressed on a wedding day. Weddings are supposed to be happy and joyful events… and you’re wedding speech should hopefully reflect this. Another thing to avoid is being negative. For example, talking about how you don’t like giving speeches, how you were asked to give a speech and didn’t want to. Anything along those lines is classed as being negative… and that won’t make for a good wedding speech. This kind of fits in with being apologetic as well. |